I hate being vulnerable to my emotions. I hate that I can’t control them. But I’m also grateful for that I have no
control over them. I honestly can’t keep
holding it all in. It’s hard to talk
about Edison. I’ve been trying to be
quiet and strong. But talking about him and
being vulnerable about him is something I need to do.
I miss him. So much. Apparently
grief hits in waves or in times when you don’t expect. I’ve been experiencing that. The last week has been especially hard. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s because I’m starting to come out
of this numbing phase. Maybe because
it’s all built up over the last two months.
Maybe it’s because Edison would have been 6 months old and entering my
favorite baby age. Maybe it’s because
there’s a sweet little baby boy with HLHS fighting for his life and I know his
parents are dealing with the most impossible decisions – I know they are
praying and hoping (and hoping and hoping) for his hero heart to arrive because
that’s his only chance. Maybe it’s because the holidays are coming up and I’ve
totally become an introvert and building up walls over the last 4 months. Maybe it’s because Grady is going to turn 4
in a couple of days and I never imagined he would be 4 years old with out a
little brother or sister with us. Maybe
it’s because I’m about to turn 30 and life just hasn’t turned out the way I
thought it would. Maybe it’s because I
feel like there’s a piece of me missing every second of everyday that’s completely
consuming even in the happy moments. Maybe
it’s because sometimes I think it all has just been a bad dream and if I just
turn the corner into the living room, he’ll still be sleeping away in his boppy
pillow on our favorite chair…
We are never going to be able to get rid of that chair.
I read somewhere that healing from child loss comes with
talking and sharing your child’s story and your story. That makes sense to me. And since I’m bad
about talking about it without totally crumbling into pieces, I think I’ll
write about it…maybe. It will probably
be badly written, but it will be what it will be.